I feel you may be closer to normal, that many in society would brave to admit.

Whining, crying, fighting, messy chaos, kids add another stress level, in an of themselves.

I don't quite, relate to having never wanted, however, I can relate to just wanting some 'breathing space', especially when I am exhausted, tired, going through a depression or anxiety phase.

My ex freaked on me, one mother's day. Because, I took time away from the kids. (I'd been struggling with the loss of my own mom...seriously, who says I must do things to others expectations, just because its 'mothers' day?...and how, exactly, does that make me a terrible person, again?)

You are a woman, as well as a mother. Give yourself, a pat on the back, for at least acknowledging that you feel a disconnect from the kids, at this point in your life. Knowing is half the battle.

Do you perceive, other's as being more engaging than yourself? How's your husband, on being supportive, when you 'need' your own space from motherhood?? Any other family members, pitch in and try to be supportive?