My friend contacted me last night via text message. I replied and we went back and forth for about 30 minutes with trivia. He asked me to come over. I brought water and he was on his 6th beer and had 2 shots of tequila before I got there.

It had been 2 full week since the flip out. He was in a very philosophical mood. He gave me a very sincere apology over his behavior and said that he drank too much and knew he was trying to engage me in a fight.

He had a question and I said I will give him an answer today or tomorrow. It was; "Why would I want to still be his friend after this last flip out? Am I a glutton for punishment, an idiot, a mother Theresa, or low self esteem or what?"

I am not any of his options, I told him, I just know that people do and say stupid things under the influence or when agitated, but that does not mean that the relationship should be thrown away. I said I can't walk away from someone if I can possibly help them. He said to me to not try to fix him. I said I am not, but I won't watch him kill himself.
I was very tired and told him I need to sleep and we'll continue this conversation over the weekend.

Now I have to think of why do I take **** from people and forgive them and don't get mad? Perna, do you stay with your wife? I assume you still love her and maybe you have a family with her. I do love my friend as a friend and the friendship is usually good.

I have a roommate that is BPI hypomania on meds. She flipped out this week over the sound of the washing machine when she wanted to sleep. She yelled, left and send mean text messages of how much she hates renting from me and hates my son and so on. I never replied to her nasty messages and when I saw her the next day, I was happy and greeted her like nothing happened. She later said to me that if she had acted that way to her mother, she would have come back to her stuff in garbage bags on the sidewalk and her mother would of texted back to move the **** out if you don't like it. My roommate was surprised that I was not upset at her.
Again, I question, is there something wrong with the fact that I forgive and don't get mad?