Hey Kimmie, I have got to say I appreciate your clear posting. I totally understood what you were saying and what you were asking. LOL Surprised you did not get a lot of replies.
Anyway....If your b/f still wants to be friends with this woman, and you have had the privilege of meeting her....then why cant you be in on all their communication??? Why cant you be involved in whatever friendship they may have. Why doesnt she call and talk or text with you?
If you say that you believe their relationship is platonic then I can only say, ok, you are probably right. I usually have a gut feeling and I am thinking you may too.
I am really confused why your b/f wants to hide their text.
I understand the trust thing too. He is not sure he can ever trust you because of the affair. I know it takes a while to earn back trust. But to me he is blowing it as far as trust goes.
You do have a complicated situation and I appreciate that fact that you recognize your part in it, but.....I think you are right....you should all be friends and all talk and text, or else he needs to be totally honest. He should say oh I heard from ____ today and show you the text or tell you he heard from her and what she wanted.
The trust thing is suppose to be both ways no matter who started the issue in the first place.
Goooooood Luck to you