Well, I disagree with others because it could be that your b/f is struggling with his self esteem, being hurt, and trusting. I was "hurt" myself and it was very hard on me too. After all, he stood by you through your hardships and you betrayed him, that just hurts, I know this first hand.

He probably has some things in common with this other woman going through a divorce. It could be that she was "betrayed" and "hurt" too. IMHO, he should be working with a therapist aside from a relationship counselor that you are seeing together.

He may be talking to this woman friend because he is still struggling and grieving and she "comforts" him in a way you can't right now because "you" hurt him.

My guess is he is probably asking, "why can't I just trust her again", "why do I keep hurting", "I love her but I am still hurt and I don't know what to do about it", "forgive her?, I can't seem to let go of the hurt and feeling so violated". Those were constant questions that I struggled with.

OE