My fiance is my main trigger. I think he might actually have BPD too, but he's told me he doesn't want anything to do with mental health for himself.

His stress and anger overwhelm me. It sucks because he takes things out externally and I take things out internally, so I get double the punishment. There are many things wonderful about him, which is why I stay, but I can't take even 1 min of him complaining about anything.