I'm so very sorry for the unbelievable stress you're having to endure. I always enjoy reading your posts as I find them to be very insightful. I believe you have a great strength in your empathy. I know it's hard but what I've learned is to try to get out if myself so to speak really helps. I think the posts about volunteering as a distraction and it makes me feel better to help another. Also if your health (surgery) allows you to take walks or try a yoga dvd. Treat yourself well and splurge a little on good hot chocolate or a movie. Do something nice just for you and remember you mean a lot to so many of us here

tnt