I heard so much negativity from my wife for years that it hurt me to my soul. I was a failure (I didn't earn tenure at my university), I was fat, I was disgusting. It all stemmed from a lack of closeness that crept into our marriage and frustration on her part over it. In the end our marriage almost blew up over her recent cyber sex but the explosion actually brought us closer together in many ways and forced us to deal with issues that had been destroying our marriage before the cyber. The reason we grew closer together is because we realized in spite of everything we have been through (much I posted elsewhere in the Relationships forum) we still loved each other.

So ask yourself, do you love him? It sounds like you do. Does he love you? If you love each other, find a way to change the way you interact. I'm not saying to cheat on him. My wife went to an extreme, we barely survived. Look for a way to change the way you interact. Find a way to talk about this.

If he really doesn't love you, your heart will be broken, but you have to move on. If I thought my wife didn't love me still in spite of everything, I would have been devastated but would have divorced her and moved on.