The details should appear shortly healingme4me. My 5th post was a detailed background of myself and my marriage.

Yes, it could of been much worse. It only progressed to having cyber sex several times a day via chat and a couple of Skype encounters. She never met anyone in person and she told me she did not have any intent on meeting anyone in person. At least she said that in her chat with one of her sex partners. I gained control of her sex chat gmail account and read some of the chats that were not deleted including one of thousands of lines spanning a couple of weeks. Let me call this guy Sex Mentor because he had actually identified my wife in real life (She was not very good at not telling guys details that allow them to identify them if they want to. I know. I read her chat with Sex Mentor and plugged in 3 pieces of information she provided and in less than 10 seconds identified her) and was giving her advice about how to do a better job hiding her identity. In that chat she told Sex Mentor that she had never met anyone. She told me she never intended to meet anyone and that seemed to be confirmed in a chat that she never expected me to read.

But what started as a couple of erotic penpals blossomed into multiple chat encounters every day before things came to a crisis. They changed from email sex pals that lived far away to Skyping a local guy and having chat sex with anyone regardless of their location. Things were heading beyond what she told me. It was clearly snowballing out of control.

One of her penpals in particular worried and and still does. There was one guy she seemed to really care for on an emotional level. For instance, in her chats with Sex Mentor she said she was particularly intellectually compatible with him, she NEVER told him that she was having online sex with many other men and women as if she wanted to reserve the possibility to meet him and not have him know what else she was doing and she even figured out his real life name, job and location. Not things expected of some casual cyber encounter. This guy was email only and went on for at least 6 weeks.

So yes, things were bad, but could of been a lot worse.