I'm struggling with whether or not I should tell my hubs that a friend of his "hit on me". Neither of us are jealous of that sort of thing if it were done by a stranger, (I wouldn't even bother mentioning it to him) but this situation has me second guessing myself for several reasons.

Obviously, you would think at the very least it would make this friendship of his questionable - right? I mean, who wouldn't want to know if a friend of theirs was willing to betray them?!

but here's where it gets messy...
2 years ago a (different)friend of his was having problems with his wife. It's a super-long story, so I'll cut to the important details. This wife became enraged *at me* when I wouldn't gang up with her about a bachelor party both our hubs were involved in. Because I wasn't flipping out about the evenings entertainment like she was, she decided to gossip about my marriage to anybody who'd listen. She got incredibly involved with her lies right down to claiming we were swingers. At first I was outraged about it (I've been with my hubs for 20 yrs, 100% monogamous), but since she was mainly telling our mutual friends this crap, I was able to (mostly) brush it off. Most often we'd all have a good giggle about it because everyone knew that 1 -she had problems and 2 -I'm WAY too introverted for that to be believable.

Since then it has become a common inside joke when we all get together. She's now his ex-wife, in another state and totally out of the picture.

sooo...back to the point - This guy was not around when all that drama went on but apparently heard some stories anyway. He's not a creeper type at all, was totally respectful with how he propositioned me and was *almost* as embarassed as I was about it. He asked me if I was planning on letting my hubs know and even volunteered to tell him himself. We both agreed to think about it for a day or two.

What would you do? I tend to overthink, I'm a huge what-iffer, I guilt trip myself and make things into bigger deals than I should. since I may not tell my hubs, I certainly can't talk about it to anyone else - except here, anonymously

I can't predict how my hubs will react...
if I tell him, worst case scenario is he shuns the guy. It's a pretty new friendship but they have lots in common, he has improved him creatively (they're both musicians) and has definitely been a positive in his life. I'd feel guilty if he ends the friendship. best case scenario is he laughs it off

if I don't tell him, worst case scenario is I beat myself up, feel like a fraud and a liar and/or the guy tells him and then I look bad for hiding it.
best case scenario is I forget all about it and never think of it again

If those swinging rumors weren't floating around and a friend of my hubs put the moves on me, I'd tell my hubs immediately!

so...are the circumstances extenuating enough to change my response?