I think it comes down to boundaries... Are we hoping other people are going to change or are we hoping we will change? We have the ability to change ourselves we do not have the ability to change others. THAT BEING SAID WE DO have the ability to change our reactions to and our behavior in response to how others treat us.

I read once that there was a greater dissatifaction in marriages with women that do not have close relationships with other women than those that do. One of the things it mentioned was that some women in that situation want there husbands (consciously or unconsciously) to be a substitute and that expectation is doomed to fail