Dear yellowfrog268,

Can I please ask you - what do you mean by "I'm in my 40s already"...in some corner, do you feel that you are "too old" for therapy and it's pointless??

Pls don't feel that way. Therapy is for anyone and everyone who is hurt. Therapy is talking to very wise people who are doctors of mind and know how to heal things. When mind is hurt, it doesn't heal with time - doing something about it heals it.

If you heal yourself - it would help you be a better person and enjoy life more wholeheartedly. Healing yourself would improve your work performance, improve relations with your parents, your spouse, kids, friends, neighbors and in future, grandkids.

Take your time to find the therapist you feel comfortable with - it takes a few tries. It would be difficult initially to talk....but take your time. Ofcourse, as your mind monsters come out, initially things do get worse - but have patience, it would get better. You'd have to do most of the work to heal....therapist is there only to show you the direction and not drive you there. If you are not comfortable with a person, you can always try an online counsellor - you'd feel less inhibited.

Good luck!!