Dear Teddy,

Considering the person is no longer in your life - if you felt something inappropriate then.....then maybe it was inappropriate.

When I was arnd 12, my dad had come home after a long time of office duty. It was not unusual for him to hug and kiss. He was lying down and he hugged me. My mom was in the same room watching us. She didn't see anything inappropriate. Yet, I felt something very unusual and inappropriate about that hug - different from other hugs. I excused myself and ran to the kitchen. Within 3 months or so of that incident - he started molesting me.

So in your gut feeling, if you felt something was sexual about his conduct - it probably was. Since that person is not there in your life, any assumptions will not hurt anyone.

Work with your therapist. Good luck!!