Hello Gwen welcome to Psych Central. I dont know that you truly forgive an abusive person but you HAVE to learn to deal with the negative aspects of the abuse through professional means in order to move on with your life. There is nothing wrong with moving on and becoming more tolerable of your surroundings and environment, and growing up and becoming more aware that you are a person, and protecitng yourself in a positive and regulated manner. Things change and peoples attitudes change with age. You may never forgive but you can get the help you need to go on and foget for a while, which is sometimes more important than forgiveness, Take care welcome again Soidhonia