I feel for Mitch and can understand his situation. A similar thing just happened to me, just with wife doing cyber and phone sex, just not in my bed with another man, in our bed with an ipad mini or on our main computer with Skype. Sometimes you can be such a s..t of a husband that you drive your spouse away. I feel for you Mitch but you have to change and she has to change if you are going to stay together.

Make every effort to reconnect and just talk to her. She has to end it (or was this just a 1 night stand?) and be truly remorseful about the affair and you have to make every effort to be a husband.

If there is no remorse and she doesn't care about what she did, you need to end it.