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Originally Posted by Confusedinomicon
You say that your not asexual because you still masturbate, but that doesn't mean you aren't.
If you ultimately would rather have a relationship with someone who wouldn't expect sex from you, great. If you are willing to date a sexual and have sex for them, great. There are asexual individuals who have sex for their partners and they derive no pleasure from the act. Its a compromise for them.
If you tell your college friends you are asexual they may joke that you don't know until you try it. All you have to say is that it is your preference and they will most likely drop it. (If they don't, they are crappy friends.)
Teen something (I forgot the sn) is in a platonic relationship on forum that includes cuddling and some petting. He doesn't want to have sex but enjoys being close to another individual. Perhaps this would work for you, too?
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I say I'm not Asexual because, well, because I'm not Asexual.
Asexuality means that a person experiences little to no sexual attraction of any kind. I DO experience sexual attraction, quite a lot of it in fact. I just don't like it.
If I simply didn't derive pleasure from sexual acts, I would absolutely be willing to compromise as you propose. But this is not the case. Acting on my sexual impulses makes me feel terrible in a way that is hard to describe.
And it's because of that I know I could never voluntarily have a sexual relationship with someone I cared for emotionally.
It's these sorts of things I was hoping to explore, better understand, and come to terms with in sex therapy. I think the whole telling my friends thing is a bridge I can only cross when I come to it.
Thanks for your input!