Jon...

I'm glad people are coming to an understanding about your original post. I do understand the concept of posting something as a reminder of something that I have to work on.

I do think part of the misunderstanding of the original post is because you used the words "pity party" and at the time there was a "pity party" thread in one of the other forum sections... maybe that was a coincidence or maybe you used that as a jumping off point for your own thinking (sorry, don't mean to be trying to read your mind so much here) but I think that made it sound like a personal criticism of specific people here. I don't think there was anything in your post that pointed to specific people but it kind of "felt" like it might have been... and I admit that's what I thought when I first read it.

That might explain some of the argumentative responses as a result of that. I hope everyone has a better understanding now, and maybe can even revisit the point of that post. I do agree with your point... some people do get comfortable being ill and refuse to let themselves make any progress. Or they receive "secondary gain" to the misery (can you tell I've been in therapy ) and maybe like the attention it brings or something.

I think that is something people have to inspect for themselves with some self discovery. I think it is a good thing to point that out. But I don't think it is a good thing to make that judgement toward other people, especially here, where people are already taking the active step of joining this community to help themselves, and where this should be a safe and non-judgemental environment for people to express their feelings.

I know judgement was not your intent and I apologize for misinterpreting originally. However I am glad there has been an opportunity to have everyone heard and hopefully better understanding all around.

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