Understand that abusers can be professional at what they do. The method of their abuse can be different (emotional, physical, or sexual) but their "mode of operation" is universal. What he is doing to you is called "gaslighting". It is when the abuser plays the victim, makes you feel like the abuse was your fault, makes you appear and feel mentally unstable, makes you feel guilty and ashamed.

It is all a ploy to make you a better victim and allows the abuse to continue.