I would count that yes, because "female concentrated on an object to numb herself, male left after a couple of minutes. female felt dirty and disgusting." is all I needed to hear to know it was not consensual.

Just because she didn't say no doesn't mean she said yes.

((((((hug)))))))

Tell someone. Don't let it eat at (I'm assuming) you. It's not your fault, that man needs to learn that when someone is not doing well DOES NOT mean open season. Your not disgusting or dirty, he is.