Dear Sharp Lace,

Kudos for walking out of abusive marriage
Sometimes, it's necessary to work with a therapist to recover from all the pain you've gone thru. It would be good if your ex husband can attend some therapy....because you are still parents of your kids and they shouldn't be affected by your divorce....but I'd be really surprised if he agrees to.

I just hope he doesn't fill his kids' ears against you in your absence....things like this can really affect them.

I think the only thing that can help you from being hurt is by realizing that he's an abusive person...anything that he says about you...means NOTHING.

He no longer is in your life.....so just try to emotionally distance him as much as you can. Try to keep the communication to a minimal.

I wish I had more suggestions....but I'm sure a therapist can help you better.

Good luck!