I still blame myself for being date-raped. That was 13 years ago and I was 30 years old. I blame myself for not fighting harder, for not saying no after the first time. It is hard but you need to forgive yourself. It was not your fault and never was your fault. We live in a culture where we blame rape victims, "if they weren't dressed that way, if they weren't drinking, if if if..." It is never a victim's fault.