The symptoms... In order to have the "label" bpd you need to meet 5 of the 9 criteria. So if you have five symptoms and you eliminate just one, then you are no longer "labeled" bpd.

My p-doc refuses to label me, but I know I meet 7 of the 9 criteria. All but number 8 and 9.

Ok, so you identify with the symptoms...Now what is the question I keep asking myself. There is not a lot out there on what happens next.

Most sources I've seen indicate that medication when needed to eleviate specific issues combined with therapy.

I just found this one (fits with what I posted before):

STEPPS is an acronym for Systems Training for Emotional Predictability and Problem Solving. The approach of this treatment is cognitive-behavioral and based around skills training. BPD is regarded as a emotional and behavioral regulation disorder, and therefore learning emotion and behavior regulation skills is the primary goal of treatment. In addition, professionals treating the BPD patient, as well as the patient's family members and close friends are taught methods of reinforcing and supporting the new emotional and behavioral regulation skills, reducing the likelihood that the patient will practice “splitting” with those in their social support system.

I like that one so much - I'm going to talk to my p-doc about it.