HI. Sorry things dont seem to be "working". Therapy takes time........for some folks longer than others, there really is no time frame - no "one size fits all" if you may. If you have been seeing the same Therapist for 2 years, and you truly feel you are making no progress, it might be time to change therapists. I really do not think you are "flunking" therapy, unless you are not doing anything suggested, or actually sabatoging yourself. There are different kinds of therapy also - perhaps the type you are in just isnt for you.

If your marriage is rocky - and it sounds it is - that certainly seems like something you would need to be talking not only to your T with, but also your husband. I certainly do not mean a discussion with him that causes you to get so upset you OD, but will he talk - and will he listen to you? Has your T ever suggested he attend therapy with you? Perhaps you need couples therapy.

I really am taken aback that your husband commented on your weight gain, and now you dont eat with him, thinking eating is sinful. You have to eat.......to live. It certainly is not a sin to eat. Has he shattered your self esteem, or is this something you have dealt with before that rude, unnecessary comment he made? (My husband would still be seeing stars if he ever said that to me - and yes, I am a bit overweight).

Can you get some of that "I am a worthwhile person" from yourself ? Like with your work, or hobbies, or child rearing, or volunteering, or just anything that you do that gives you satisfaction?

Good luck, therapy is never easy, and I do know the feeling all too well of not thinking I was not making progress. Have you voiced that to your T ? Asked for feedback from her about how she sees your progress? She might be seeing it, where you are not, and if so, perhaps she should share that with you.