Beth,

I don't know the details or even wether he had a bypass or band type surgery, but a friend of my father's died, shortly after his stomach reduction surgury. Surgeries are best avoided in general as they all carry multiple risks, done well they can save and perhaps transform lives(I think I heard somewhere).

I think you should talk to your Dr. and T asap about this and serious supervised alternatives.

If you think you need to go ahead with it, 'get your affairs in order' , regarding will, living will, power of medical attorney, and all that stuff. I don't know what's best or wisest for you, just be informed and ready for any out come.

Hope whatever works well for you~Down