I'm sorry you are going through that, Andrew! It is refreshing to hear these sorts of thoughts and insecurities from a man. Anyways, just a couple of comments about yours and others' posts. I think you should continue to do anything in your power to show her your love and support. However, there is only so much one person can do. Don't break your neck trying to "win" someone back- what I mean is, continue to put yourself first. Secondly, I do not agree with name-calling of your spouse, especially since nothing in your post even indicated that your wife was those things. Troubled and confused about a relationship does not equal b#!*%!. And, my third little bit of inut is that someone else stated that it is difficult to get someone to love you the way that you love them. Not only do I think it is difficult, but I think it is nearly unobtainable. No two people feel or show love in the same way, so I sometimes feel that when someone in a relationship starts thinking, "he doesn't do 'x' and I do 'x' all the time!- he must not love me the way I love him"- I just think that sort of thinking sets a person up for warped thinking and feeling.

That's just my thoughts on this topic.

Good luck with everything and keep us posted! You sound like a wonderful person who deserves wonderful things- whether that end up meaning with her or without her!