Suzy, I'm sorry therapy is not going well for you right now. I had some thoughts on a few points you made:

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We go over & over the same stuff.....

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I'm just not getting over the conversation when my husband said he no longer found me sexually attractive so we just kinda go over my not getting over it.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Sounds like you're stuck to me on this incident. Going over it multiple times with T is not helping. Ask T for another approach from his/her toolkit. My T uses EMDR on stuck traumas. Helps the brain process them so you can move on.

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So what am I supposed to be doing in therapy?

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Where do I get some guidance about what I should be accomplishing in therapy?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I think you could ask your T both of these questions. If T has no answers, maybe time to move on to new therapist?

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The "I'm a good, worthwhile person" stuff just isn't helping me to feel it inside.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Is that the CBT approach? Doesn't work for me either. Maybe try a T with a different therapy orientation. A switch made all the difference for me.

Do you want to remain married? If so, then couples therapy in the future may be really helpful. Maybe a goal in your therapy could be to work toward being able to do couples therapy. It sounds too tough for that now, but maybe if T knows you want to work toward that, it would make your therapy feel more purposeful.

Good luck. Hang in there.

sunny