Angel, I know that feeling. And a mess does tend to make me more anxious. Maybe once you can get home you can use that anxious energy to tackle some chores. Can you get the 4 year old to help with something. I remember that when my oldest was that age nothing made her happier than a can of pledge and a dust rag. I could set her to work on the dining room table and chairs and it would keep her busy (til the pledge ran out). But she did a fair job of dusting and it gave me a breather. She also liked to clean baseboards. A bowl of soapy water and a rag and she would clean and clean. Try it and see.