Hello Andrew. I am glad to hear that you are in counseling, but have you considered that your wife may have a mental health issue? This will probably be discovered in counseling, and you really need to focus on getting your wife a diagnosis if her behavior is based on a mental health issue. Some people make decisions that are not rational at times if they have a mental health disorder. Dr Scott Wylie. Psisci in the drug forum has a chat today at 2:30 PM maybe he could give you some insight on your wifes problems. I think you need to think that there is something going on that needs to be addressed more than just counseling, in case it is mental health based and your wife needs more in depth help. I think it is very admirable of you to help as you do you must be a very good husband to your wife. Take care I hope the best for you and your wife. Soidhonia