I am just not a big talker, I show affection/love better in a physical way, and I have a Wood I need to relieve somehow... that is as plain as I can put it. Of course I will communicate with a girl,, but it is not what makes me happy.

Does it make me sound shallow and brutish? maybe to some.

Guess what, several weeks ago I met a girl online and decided "ok, this one I will try not to be all about sex with her, and actually get to know her first". Well, after many many phone chats, stupid me ended up driving 2 hrs away, thinking that she actually liked me, and on the date she had hardly anything to say.. and later texted me to say she felt no connection. this is after wasting my time for weeks on the phone and facebook, and I spend so much money on gas to get to her!

Now, I'm sure alot of girls on this forum have met guys that wronged them.. but believe me alot of your fellow females (not all) but alot that I have met, have used dates simply for "attention", free drinks/dinner, or to talk about their male friends. Then they play the texting game which drives me crazy. I'd say 95% of the girls I went out with.. so I am not generalizing. lol.

And the outcome is usually me waking up the next day with huge Wood and no one next to me to relieve each other's sexual tension. And yes it is.. it is stress, tension, frustration, and pent-up disillusionment at dating.

I am all about results and outcomes... and so therefore Sex is simply proof that we are together and I don't have to go out and do the above-stated monkey game anymore, but will wake up those cold winter mornings next to you and you next to me. So how is that fake and phoney? I am clearly being honest about the REAL world through my eyes and experience.

I am sure in Mayberry things are different, but I do this sort of thing in NYC where it is a very superficial life,, you are burdened by 10-hour workdays, high cost of living, high cost of dating, girls "driven" by things other than boyfriends (career, friends, gadgets, work, money, the gym)..... and many dudes like that too, so for guys like me who believe in a deep sexual bond it seems like I am alone in this world and the empty pillow proves it.