I will tell you, buddy, from my 10 years experience in the world of women (female relatives, roommates, co-workers, dates, romantic partners, etc) that the modern woman, especially in America, is very driven by personal success.. but only in relation to that which pleases her near friends & family/parents, and how she perceives she is "supposed to be" as programmed by the modern media, which is also programming her friends the same way.

Of course I am not generalizing, but talking about the Majority of girls I have dealt with. Very diet-obsessed, obsessed about their weight alot even if they are skinny, very loyal to a fault with their close circle of friends, very loyal to a gay best friend who they see as a brother, eager to please their parents and usually very close to the parents, very loving to their Pets, loyal to their alma mater and their Company, eager to please the boss and move up the corporate ladder, and after work is quick to jump on the treadmill.. again to please said friends who really don't even care if she is fat.

So how do you(or I) as a guy fit in to this new dynamic of female? Well... my advice is to become part of her inner "circle" that she holds dear. She will NEVER EVER EVER put you before her "circle".. you are just a guy to her.. But, if you are already part of that circle and her friends accept you, she will believe her friends over you anyday, and through them you can get to her!

It is a proven fact. Stop chasing her.. impress her friends and they will lead her to you.