Wow, if they used those words, that sounds pretty extreme. While it isn't ever the victim's fault if someone hurts them, because perpetrators know that they do wrong and are accountable for their own actions no matter what, it is also necessary to deal with the fact that there are people out there who do bad things. It is so complicated approaching this issue to someone with a trauma history. As a child, you were unable to control your circumstances or protect yourself. You are never at fault for bad things that someone does to you. But as an adult, there are things that you can to to reduce the risk that you will be a victim again. You have more control now. It isn't necessary to wear victorian clothing, but you can have more safety if you wear reasonably modest clothing, don't walk alone in dark, isolated places (ask for an escort you can trust or go with a friend), etc.

I am sorry that you have been hurt. Hypervigilance and inability to trust and seeing danger everywhere are effects of that. Mental health professionals should understand that, especially if they know about your trauma history, and they are responsible for treating you in a sensitive, responsible way, and not blaming you for what has happened to you. I have to wonder about the particular circumstances and what they were trying to accomplish.

Also, others who have also been hurt (whether or not they are mental health professionals) may also be defensive and hurt easily. If you are around other trauma survivors, you may both inadvertently hurt each other. The pain is very real, on both sides, although nobody meant to hurt the other. In your efforts to keep yourself safe, be clear about your needs but keep others' needs and vulnerabilities in mind too. They might not deserve as much blame as it seems. Abuses and incompetency by professionals should be reported so that someone else doesn't get hurt and reparations can be made to you. But it also doesn't help you to hold onto it. At some point, you need to let it go so that you can move on.