I use my anger nowadays as a personal flag to help me look and see what I don't understand about the other person's position that they're speaking or acting in ways I don't "get." If I don't like what someone says to me I can usually ignore it as not-useful-for-me and if I don't like what they do to/with me I let them know/discuss it with them and if I don't feel they get me, then I move on. I'm not in charge of other people's "wrong" thinking so blaming me when I'm not to blame doesn't bother me much. I know what I know/who I am/what's good for me and that's enough for me.