I'm a 55 year old woman and I used to think that I could only ever have a female T. I had issues with men in general, some stemming from SA when I was a young teen, but also difficulty talking and relating to men.

But then I found myself in a situation where I didn't have a choice and had a male T, it turned out fine. And then later when I did have a choice, I chose a male T, precisely because of my issues with men. I figured it would be a good way to resolve them. It turned out I was right. Yes, there are some things he doesn't automatically understand the way a woman would, but on the other hand, he makes no assumptions about anything. He wants to know how I feel, not because I'm a woman, but because I'm me.

Also, you mentioned not wanting being attracted to your T to get in the way as a reason to see a woman. If you're talking about transference, you should know that transference knows no gender or sexual orientation. Female clients can experience it with either female or male therapists, because it's not really so much about the therapist as it is about the client and what she's been missing in her life.