So, I'm a middle aged straight women and have only had a female T. I also had a fear of men as my dad abused me. Always been fearful of men. However, I've always gravitated to women in my life rather than men - I prefer the shorthand between two females that comes naturally. However, it did not stop my falling in love BIG time with my T. And I'm okay with that. It has helped me heal without having to be worried around the T in a room with a closed door, as an extra emotion to deal with.