My partner is the same with the drinking, his level of boozing is his so call therapy or an outlet. To me, he just want to get drunk once a week in order to satisfy his 'cravings' ! He does his full 'dark' side when he's drunk, abusive, blame the whole world, worst of all calling or texting ex wives.

I have to take my hat off you how did you manage to put up with it all for 30 years?