would appreciate some advice........

I am 32 weeks pregnant with a planned pregnancy - 1st baby with new partner of two years - 3 previous children from 15yr marriage ended in divorce.

Last friday I went to pick up my partner from work to go out for some dinner - waited outside his work for him - didn't text him regarding plans, as I have done previously and he always has mobile switched off - my 16yr old daughter in the car with me - waited until he came from work and was walking with female colleague - walked past us and continued to walk with her across car park and out onto road to her parked car and then they get into her car. They do a u-turn and as she is driving past us he sees us and asks her to pull over.

I drive to where he normally parks his car and eventually he comes to the car. I ask him what is going on......he says he told me that she asked him to walk her to her car as she has been frightened walking alone.....he did about a week earlier in a passing conversation......I said to him you never told me that is was going to be a regular thing or that you get into her car. They were also planning a works night out on the saturday and I had offered to drive him to and pick him up after so that he could have a drink however he had said no that this female colleague would do that as she was passing that way.

I had also told him that two female colleagues that I worked with had caught their husbands online chatting to females and I had said that I felt it was dreadful....both had children and were prepared to risk all they had and was it really worth it. Their was no reply from him and he quickly changed the subject. The next day I had text him to ask if I could borrow his laptop to do some research for a friend.......when I looked at his laptop he had put a password protection on it (this coming from a guy who had to get my daughters to show him how to turn the laptop on a few weeks ago) and he waited until he got home from work and had cleared his browsing history before he text me his password number.

Anyway when he got into his car to drive away and I got hold of his mobile phone and asked to have a look at it..... he started to pull the mobile from my hands really hard....he was not letting me have his mobile ....no way.....so much so that when he got the phone out of my hands he had pushed against me and I had fell right back and hurt myself. I told him I was having tightenings and to give me the keys to the car and go. My 16yr old who had seen everything was shouting at him to get away from me and go.

When I got home I had a call from him I didn't answer, I was in shock with the fall and I received a text from him saying that it wasn't what I thought and that he was walking a colleague and that she was in fear of her safety and he loved me and had no designs on anyone else. The following day I had to go into hospital to get checked over as I had not felt the baby move. Later that day I text him to tell him that I had a scan baby was ok. Nothing from him. I text his parents later that day to ask if he was there.....he then called me from his parents saying that he has just switched on his mobile.

I asked him questions about everything and why he wouldn't just tell me the truth as to why he would not let me see his mobile? why he kept it switched off all the time and charged it in his car only? why he deleted his browsing history? why he lied about his colleague passing through so she could pick and drop him off, when she lived in the town where they worked and would have to come out of her way to do this?? He said that I should trust him....got angry and put the phone down. I text him that it was over between us as he could not be honest with me.....if he wanted to move on with me to come and speak face to face and tell me the truth and we could work at things.

He called me the next day and arranged that he would come over the following day before or after work and he would give me his mobile and I said he could take mine for the day so as he would have a mobile. He told me he loved me and our baby.

He never came and never made contact with me. It got to late wednesday evening and I text his parents that I had not heard from him.....they said they hadn't either since the sunday when he had told me he would come over the following day. His parents said they had no idea he was going to do this as they had offered to bring him over to mine anytime he wanted and he had promised to go to work the following day. I have since found out his hasn't been to either of his two jobs. I asked his parents if I should go over to his flat as I had a spare key, they said yes to check he was ok and hadn't done anything silly. I went over no sign of him. I called his parents and they said they would try contact him. I left a note in his flat to contact his parents to let them know he was ok. I text him to let me know that he was ok as I was worried sick.

The following day I received a text message from his parents saying he had been on contact with them and that he was staying with friends locally and would it be ok for his dad to collect his keys etc at a suitable time for me.

I was so angry, that I didn't respond to the text from them. I was deeply hurt that he felt was not coming over to pack his things himself and face me and that he was getting his father to do it. I text him that I loved him and wanted him to come and tell me the truth and we could work through things and work at being a family. I told him that if he wanted his dad to come over that afternoon then I would be in and would take it that he wanted out of the relationship and never contact him again.

It has now been four days and no contact from him. I am wondering whether to trust my gut instinct and he is with someone else and to move on??? He has never told me of any friends he could stay with locally??? We have had a falling out twice previously and he went to his flat overnight and we sorted things the next day.

I just don't understand and as he wont speak or make contact with me then I can't have any closure and begin to move on.......I am having to make arrangements for other people to be with me when I go into labour as he has gone and I am frightened about it all and facing it on my own??? His mobile is constantly switched off??

apologies for the long posting ...would appreciate any advice???