I took some folks advice here and got back into adult films, and I must say it took care of the problem of me constantly having "wood" all day long, which I am tired of moaning about in this forum.

At the same time, I am not proud of having to use that method for relief.. and makes me still desirous for a partner. last night I tried this thing you girls call "me time" and I hated it.. I watched a nice comedy but I really wanted a girl cuddled up next to me and watching together!

Also, being in my 30s I like the idea of a partner, not an adult film... for practical reasons like sharing rent. Coming home to her and not to a cold empty house or roommates. Or if not sharing a lease, at least having her over often. Cook together, cuddle, massage, etc.

So... I am gonna try Online Dating again since many girls here have said they do not like being approached Offline in public because of safety reasons and a creep factor they have built in their heads somehow. But here are many questions about what I have encountered now and in the past online, and my thought process in BOLD:

1) why do you girls put as your top things you cannot do without to be Friends, Iphone, Family...
WHERE AM I IN THIS PICTURE?? AT BACK OF THE LINE?

2) why so much emphasis on the fact that you are "work hard, play hard", "highly educated and driven", and "have a crazy work week"?
DO YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TIME FOR A GUY?? WHY SHOULD I CARE SO MUCH ABOUT THOSE THINGS... I AM EDUCATED TOO BUT NOT CONSUMED BY THOSE THINGS!

3) why do you not mention what you would do for your man, and for the overall larger relationship... to build and nurture it?
WHY SHOULD I BE MOTIVATED THEN TO CONTACT YOU?

4) when emailing each other, why are so many girls either "out of town", "have a crazy week this week", or seem to work 2 jobs and school?
SHOULD I NOT COUNT ON YOU TO BE THERE FOR ME AND FOR US VERY OFTEN?? ARE YOU ANOTHER LITTLE PRINCESS IN HER OWN WORLD?? WHY IS EVERY WEEK SO DARN "CRAZY"??? MINE ARENT!

5) why do they say "just seeing whats out there. I prefer friends first and see where it goes. If you want a hookup, then keep moving."
IS THIS FACEBOOK OR A DATING SITE?? OF COURSE I WANT TO HOOKUP, BUT WITH YOU NOT WITH EVERY GIRL ON HERE... HENCE WHY I WROTE TO YOU AND NOT TO ANYONE ELSE!! YOU SHOULD FIND IT CUTE, NOT ANNOYING.

6) why do they post shots with them and another guy.. sometimes a gay bestie or just a guy friend?
THIS IS SOOOOO UNATTRACTIVE. AS A MALE CAT.. I DONT LIKE OTHER MALE CATS IN MY TERRITORY THAT I AM SCOPING OUT. THAT IS THAT.

7) why do we have great connection by email, text, and phone.. and much in common.. and find each other cute.. but in person 8 out of 10 times they end up "not feeling a connection, sorry."
THIS DRIVES ME CRAZY. YOU PUT IN ALL THAT EFFORT AND THINK IT IS GOING GREAT AND THEN THEIR STUPID GUT "FEELING" TAKES OVER. GRRRR

8) how do I really compete when they are getting 100s of emails?
9) after our "date",, they will go home and check their inbox and rinse/repeat again usually... how do I truly nail them down and keep their attention?

10) finally... why do they write a friggin NOVEL in their profile.. dude, just tell me the key points that let me get to know you!! And write it targeted to your audience.. a SINGLE GUY! Stop writing it like you are on a job interview or trying to impress other girls. Who do you think your audience is? Be playful and flirty... because you have competition too and do not think you are "special" and there is no other girl out there.

I feel like thank god for adult films... the above process is a CHORE!!!!!