It's not up, to your wife, to decide, that after two months, it's up to YOU, to already move past this!?!

At this, point, she's the one that needs to make some serious changes and efforts, and not believe that all she has to say is sorry, for you to forgive her.

I am not sure, how long, it will take for your anger to simmer. Clearly, if she's expecting you to be over it by now, she brings forth more to this than meets the eye.

If anything, things will never be the same. Some marriages do recover from affairs, but it takes serious work, to get there.