Hi Anthony,

I've been following your threads for a while now. I actually remember you from several months ago, when you had a different profile. I'm pretty sure it was you, because issues and many details were exactly the same back then, even profile name was similar (don't ask me why my brain would hold on to the info like that, it just does sometimes).

I see that this situation is ongoing and bothers you a lot, so I will try my best to help. But I must apologize in advance if I am being harsh.

Fist, to answer your questions about dating sites. I've never used them but have many friends who did, so I know something about the topic.

You ask why girls present themselves as super busy and consumed with careers, school, friends, etc. There are at least two reasons known to me:

1. They actually are.

Women need to pay rent and buy food too and it's hard to make a living these days, so for many it does become a priority, same as for men. Also, women are naturally more social and value their connections. It is normal and healthy and in most cases doesn't stand in the way of romance but helps it. You wouldn't want to be the only one to whom she tells and retells all her problems and grievances, would you?

2. They don't want to appear needy and pathetic.

Opening a dating profile takes a lot of courage from an average girl. It is not very natural for a woman to actively look for a male attention, even these days. Women want to appear well situated in life and desired by others, so potential partner wouldn't misinterpret their being on the site as a sign that no one in RL wants them. That is why women highlight their professional accomplishments and rich social life. Why is it so intimidating for you? You DO NOT need to compete with those things for her attention. Believe me, if the girls likes you, you won't find yourself short of her attentions

Now, couple things I really wanted to comment on from your other threads. You constantly ask why girls behave in a certain why towards you, why they appear disinterested in you and preoccupied with other things when you try to talk to them, why they do not welcome your sexual attention. Well, I am a girl, your age actually, know tons of other girls so I feel qualified to answer. I'm sorry if my opinion upsets you.

The real reason why the girls are like that, is because THEY DON"T LIKE YOU. Not every other guy, but YOU. There is something in you that repels most women. Maybe it is physical, but most likely it's something deeper rooted. Believe me, if the girl likes you she will go out of her way to attract attention, flirt, chat, etc. I know guys who moan that they can't get a break from girls who try to chat THEM up all the time

Of course I might be wrong, but even if I'm right, it's not the end of the world. Most women are not ALL women. There is a girl that will like you very much, I believe there is someone for everyone. Just keep looking, don't become bitter and don't despair. And please don't hate on all women, they aren't responsible for your happiness, don't have to like you or do anything for you, they are just doing their best to get by, same as you.