Then the question is, how or how much does it affect your therapy? Sometimes they say stuff to who they THINK we are, or to how they hope to present themselves to us. Like one time (or rather multiple times) my t said oh yuck about something, and I was like, why is he saying that? We talked about it later and I just said it never rang true for me. Really the point in therapy is for ME to speak up immediately when things don't ring true - if this had been a real emergency! i.e., a real relationship, and a guy had said oh yuck to me, I should have immediately said, you liar, get out of my bed! The relationship with t, or t doesnt have to be a sweet guy; the guy in my bed - hopefully!