I'm afraid of showing vulnerability too. Leaves one open to exploitation etc. But... I guess ya gotta be able to trust some people some time... It can be hard to assess the level of risk, though. I tend to trust when I shouldn't really and I'm unable when the person is actually trustworthy. I don't trust particularly wisely I guess.

I'm trying to feel okay about how much I shared. I am kinda proud that I was able to do that. I guess a fairly natural progression would have been for me to talk a bit about all the stuff I've been reading (about self psychology etc). But... I was concerned he would be a bit overwhelmed by it all... I don't know. We will see how it goes next time. I'm going to have to try really hard not to cold shoulder him as an expression of disapproval about all his time off. I guess it is okay that he goes on conferences / workshops. And it is only fair that he gets the statutary holiday. And it is jolly nice of him to take a month off when his wife delivers etc. I'm tempted to mumble something (not to him) about how sometimes needs just do conflict etc etc and that is a fact of life. But... I don't know. We will see.

The email thing was funny. He said that we could have a couple of phone sessions while he was away. I asked him whether he emailed. In the chatty session. He said he hadn't done... That he was having problems with his accounts. He said he would phone me about rescheduling and I asked if it was possible for him to email me instead. Because phoning can be tricky with officemates and the like. He said he was still having trouble with 2 of his accounts but he was happy to give me his home account. That it was a shared account but his privacy was respected. I asked if he wanted some time to set up a new gmail or whatever, but he was okay with giving me that. Probably because it is shared I guess. I dunno. I am really very careful with boundaries around things like that. I might try and persuade him to set up a Gmail account. Do you think Gmail is safeish? I was wondering about chat sessions instead of phone sessions... Maybe...