My most recent incident was my friend's wife tried to talk me into reconciliation. Out of respect for my friend, I was civil and understood she ment well. However as a survivor of systematic child abuse, it is insulting. It is insulting for any victim of abuse to be told they should reconcile with their abuser, especially if that abuser is toxic.

It really is annoying when I get told "but she's your mother", "I feel bad for her'. Especially when my "mother" was my long time abuser who caused a lifetime of damage into adulthood. Anxiety, panic attacks, depression, PTSD, inability to trust, inability to show affection, inability to bond with others, guilt, shame, shreded self worth, second guessing myself. Thanks mom!

When is comes down to it. This isn't about me punishing anyone. This isn't about me trying to change anyone (other than myself). This is about me staying away from my abusers, staying away from negativity so I can finally rebuild myself and peice myself back together like a puzzle. It is just unfortunate that it is seen as "taboo" in our society.

"But it's your mom", "but it's your dad"....