A huge help would be to learn assertiveness responses to remarks. For "You have water",the
assertive agreement phrase would be,"Your right,
I do have water!" This,and other stock phrases like
that are in a book called:" When I say no,I feel guilty," by Manuel J. Smith. It's out of print,but you
should get it in Alibris on net. Please do get this,it
will save you enormous pain and misery.There are
actual examples from real life,so it's easy to understand. Let me know if you get it ok.
Respect,
BLUEDOVE