I suggest you make sure when the baby is born that he meet his financial obligations to support the baby he helped you to create.

You deserve better than your immature baby daddy for a romantic life partner; but since he is the baby's father, then he should have a part in the baby's life and it will likely be up to you to see to that. I would make sure everything is legal and on paper regarding custody, visitation, child support, etc.

You might also want to consider counseling for yourself. I think you were in transition after your long marriage and were not thinking clearly when you decided to have a baby with this man. Unfortunately, babies do not bring couples closer together for the most part, particularly if one or the other partner is immature and still in need of having his selfish desires met now, now, now regardless of the effect on others.

Start now to make a happy, healthy life for you, your new baby and your older children. When you are happy and healthy, decent men will see that. Hold out for a mature man--I don't mean old, I mean emotionally and intellectually mature.

You sound like a loving and giving person. You deserve the same in return from a life partner and the baby daddy guy should fulfill his parental obligations and that is it.