thanks for being so open and fullsome, Matt. i would like to point out the difference between Sociopath and Psychopath. it is generally agreed that Psychopathy is a form of birth defect, in which part of the brain never develops, the amygdala, i think. Sociopathy, on the other hand is generally considered to be the result of early abuse and neglect.

for the individual and society there is very little difference. all of the "symptoms" you describe are present in both diagnoses. additionally, if there is physical violence in the home in later childhood, this seems to be the precipitating condition for violent anti-social behaviors. otherwise, psychopaths often hide in successful positions such as corporate CEO's and such.

there is another "co-morbid" (appearing together) dysfunction, called explosive rage disorder, which it sounds like you might have. tho some people with psychopathy don't demonstrate it, most do. there is no known "cure" or successful treatment for this condition, sadly, and the people with it often also have very poor impulse control, and difficulty learning from experience.

what i have seen is that people with either of these disorders do not associate with others like themselves, finding that boring or antagonizing. so some say it is like a wolf in a herd of sheep. i prefer to think of people more like goats ,, clever and more aggressive, but it takes all kinds,,,, as you well know.

the one thing i have heard from people with Psychopathy, that helps them to function, is to lay down rules for their own behavior, and then put their considerable intellect to work on sticking to those rules. i hope you find this reply helpful, and reliable. and i hope you find the trick to managing your anger. that alone will serve you well~

best wishes~
Gus