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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
I suggest you make sure when the baby is born that he meet his financial obligations to support the baby he helped you to create.
You deserve better than your immature baby daddy for a romantic life partner; but since he is the baby's father, then he should have a part in the baby's life and it will likely be up to you to see to that. I would make sure everything is legal and on paper regarding custody, visitation, child support, etc.
You might also want to consider counseling for yourself. I think you were in transition after your long marriage and were not thinking clearly when you decided to have a baby with this man. Unfortunately, babies do not bring couples closer together for the most part, particularly if one or the other partner is immature and still in need of having his selfish desires met now, now, now regardless of the effect on others.
Start now to make a happy, healthy life for you, your new baby and your older children. When you are happy and healthy, decent men will see that. Hold out for a mature man--I don't mean old, I mean emotionally and intellectually mature.
You sound like a loving and giving person. You deserve the same in return from a life partner and the baby daddy guy should fulfill his parental obligations and that is it.
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Thanks for your reply, I would always welcome the father of my baby to have an active part in our baby/child's life........It deeply upsets me to think that he will not make contact to see the baby or continue to have a relationship with the baby/child......I always thought he would make a great dad hence why I tried for a baby with him. It breaks my heart to think that he may never contact us again and I just don't know how to communicate with him....his mobile is constantly switched off and he is not living at his flat he has text his parents that he is staying with friends???
The only way of contacting him I would have is through his parents and I am reluctant to do this as I do not think it right to involve them. I have always has a good relationship with them and sent them scan pictures of the baby and they appeared excited and would welcome them having a relationship with their grandchild even if their son did not want.
I just do not understand what is happening with my partner, he has always seemed excited about the baby and appeared to be supportive etc and this is totally out of character for him.
I had noticed that he was on the internet a lot lately, switching his mobile off in the house and charging it in his car, wiping out his browsing history and then not letting me see his mobile that night.......I mean he really would not let me have his mobile.......even after this he contacted me saying he loved me and the baby....and like I say he arranged to come over and talk etc.......then nothing from him in over a week now. Except the text from his parents to say he was staying with friends.......I don't understand why he is staying with friends......who they are.....he has his own flat???
At this point in time I cannot ever see him contacting me again......I am angry ....I feel it is cowardly ......I can't run away and bury my head in the sand.....I wouldn't want to.....it is unfair to the child......and what do I say to the child as it is growing up and asking ....who is my daddy....where is my daddy......??? ...its horrible and I am angry that he is going to let our child grow up like that as he cannot be responsible enough or mature enough to meet the needs of his child.......x