I know what you're talking about, my lashes are the first things I go to pull because they don't feel right. Or one feels "sore", even though it really isn't.

For me, I bought an eyelash "comb" (about a dollar) and when I fell the one lash is wrong, I find a mirror and comb them out and usually I feel better. Especially when I can see nothing is "wrong".

I have an autoimmune disease, too (Adult Onset Still's) and if you're on a steroid treatment, it may make it worse. It has for me.