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latly I came to realise that if u queit all together then it still has u under control

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The all or nothing approach of AA is black and white thinking, that others comment on better than I'm able. You might find this link helpful.
http://www.peele.net/
There are many others but you tend to have to dig for them in the shifting landscape of the web.

Good luck~Down