I wouldn't want to repair this rupture because the heart of it isn't an issue between the two of you: the issue is this T's gross incompetence and ethical violation. Clearly, he doesn't have a full grasp on this most basic tenet of his profession. And it doesn't appear to have been a heat of the moment slip, as he still doesn't seem to be aware of the breath of the violation. I would see it as an indication of major incompetence, and go elsewhere.