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Originally Posted by wife22
I have been living depending on his mood for 16 years,the problem is -there comes a point when you say " what is wrong with me that you can not respect me and accept me as a personality,why I can not make decisions I like sometimes?"
He told me once "there is no "your "identity,you are married and do what I say ,because I am right"....
Actually, there also comes a time in your life when you say "what is wrong with me that I DON'T RESPECT ME? Why have I put up with this so long?."
There comes a time when you say "fk this shyt, this man doesn't respect me as a person, denies my right as an individual and treats me like property and I DESERVE better" and I'd say 16 years is a very long time to walk on eggshells and be at the mercy of someone else's mood.  That's no way to live.
just hurts,numbs up.....Oh well,i guess c'est la vie,I chose it,right? |
Its not too late to make a different choice you know, a healthier, happier one...
You say you don't want to wreck your kids lives, how is a happy healthy mother a wrecked life? Is it healthier for their wellbeing to witness mommy being ordered around? Is is good for them to watch how mommy's spirit is broken? Is it better for them to watch mommy live a miserable life when there are better options?
Is this marriage the example you want them to follow for themselves into adulthood? Should little boys grow up to be abusive, demanding, demeaning, bossy men, and little girls grow up to be property of their husbands with no will, thought or wants of her own?
Divorce doesn't equate screwing up your kids, subjecting them to a toxic marriage has a much better chance of doing that.
You deserve better, and your children deserve a happy, whole mother, not a martyr.