After several discussions and good open talk with our T, we decided to give it another shot. She admitted she made a big mistake in "running over" our feelings and had her own agenda and tried to "fix" instead of listen and really see what our needs were.
We both agreed to work on things that will make the therapy relationship better on both sides. Which means both of us taking more responsibility for our parts.
It was a good move I think since she helped me realize that she is so NOT like our abusers that when she makes a mistake she admits it and doesn't blame me.

One foot in front of the other....
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